Organising your wedding speeches can be quite a stressful process. You have lots of people to work with and a battle between tradition and what you really want on the day. To make it easier for you we've listed a few different options, both traditional and modern, for you to consider.
This is your day so we suggest you do whatever feels right to you. Our word of advice: keep your speeches at a maximum of 5 minutes each with your MC a few minutes each in between. Whilst you may love hearing all the wonderful things your family and friends have to say about you, the last thing you want is your guests falling asleep or to take away from your dancing time!
TRADITIONAL SHORT VERSION
1. Father of the bride (or close family friend) toasts the bride and groom.
2. Groom responds on behalf of his wife and himself and then proposes a toast to thank the bridesmaids.
3. Best man gives a speech on behalf of the bridal party. He reads any messages or telegrams.
TRADITIONAL LONG VERSION
1. MC welcomes the guests
2. Toast to the bride and groom
3. Groom responds and toasts the bridesmaids
4. Response by the best man
5. Toast to the parents of the bride
6. Response by the father of the bride
7. Toast to the parents of the groom
8. Response by father of the groom
9. Reading of any important messages
10. MC thanks the caterers, musicians and others
A modern order really can be anything. This is simply an order we think really works!
1. MC introduction, welcomes guests and finalises any housekeeping (such as where the toilets are!)
2. MC toast to the bride's parents
3. Father of the Bride speech and toast to bride and groom
4. MC toast to the groom's parents
5. Father of the Groom speech
6. MC welcomes the Best Man
7. Best Man speech and toast to the couple
8. MC welcomes the Groom
9. Groom thanks the best man, maid of honour and all the bridal party. Toast to his new wife, thanks guests and parents.
10. MC welcomes the Bride
11. Bride responds and completes final thanks.
12. MC invites the couple to take their first dance and/or cut the cake.
Whilst it is nice to follow some tradition at your wedding you don’t need to stick to the format we’ve just listed. We didn’t! You can arrange whatever speeches you like and the order they are given in.
The bride may also like to give a speech too (or as in my case, sing a song). If the bride wishes to speak then it would be nice for them to thank the bridesmaids and the groom toast the groomsmen.
Anything goes these days. Keep it elegant and representative of you as a couple.
(Images: These are the images of my wedding speeches, just so you could see how I did it! The amazing Popcorn Photography took these shots!)
Give us a buzz and our wedding coaches can help you through the process and give pointers on what you can do to make this process easy for your speakers (or yourself!). Your speeches are a good portion of the night and you want to make sure they are all managed just right!